How to let your partner know what you like in bed

It is quite interesting that people who have seen each other naked and vulnerable find it difficult to actually talk to each other about sex. Any couple having regular sex absolutely has to talk about it so things continue to get better. Just as you talk about your relationship, you should also communicate your sexual needs.

It is a sad fact that a lot of Nigerian women have reported faking orgasms while a lot of men have reported having a partner that does not understand how to please them. Why does this happen? Because Nigerian couples find it extremely difficult to have the sex talk.

If you have not had that talk yet, then you should ASAP. Here are three simple ways to bring up the topic.

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1. Point it out

You can point something out in an adult movie and talk about how great you think it is. Or you could  simply start the conversation with "I saw this thing in a video that looked really hot." This way, it is less awkward and sounds very casual.

2. Use positivity

If your partner did something in bed that is in line with what you want or felt like something you enjoy more of, bring it up after sex in a positive mode. "Wow, when you used your hand to touch me that way, it completely drove me crazy." Your partner will take the cue that this is something you want more of. You can do this step by step whenever your partner gets it right. This way, you are also encouraging him/her to talk about what they like too.

 

3. Use dirty talking

Sure, they might sounds like words that you say under the sexual influence but these are usually words you remember and can give you hints of what you like. Simply moaning "Yeah,  I like it when you do that," or "I would love to blindfold you and have my naughty way with you," can help you get on the same page. It is easy to do, not awkward and you both get to learn more about each other each time.